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I suppose we all learned one or two lessons from each person and each couple from my chocolates and sushi series. I mean, it was awesome while it lasted and I’m going to miss some of the characters. These particular characters I can say they stayed with me long enough that I could almost imagine them to be real. And you never know, someone may be going through some of these things in reality. Our own is to learn from them. I never imagined it to go the direction it went anyway and I’m amazed by how far I’ve come.

Thank you Jesus

And thanks for enjoying the story as much as I loved creating it.

So we move on.

Number 1 lesson

Never idolize anything in this world, be it material or human because they’ll come back to prove to you what they really are. Human beings and vanity. They are not God and shouldn’t take the place of God in our lives. Humans will surely disappoint, will even go as far as turning our backs against us most especially in times when we need them most but God will always be there for us. I mean He who gave his son that we might have life, how much more?

Lesson 2;

Have faith. It might take a while, a very Long while for what you’re expecting from God but just know this, God never comes late. An example is in the case of Bisi and the triplets.

The world might see it as late but he created you and knows the biology about you and so when he feels its time to work his wonders in your life, he will.

Lesson 3;

Be transparent. In all your relationships with people and people will come to trust you. Bisi hid the truth from her spouse and see where it landed her. People will come to trust you and whatever it is that you do. Don’t believe that lie that it’s impossible to be honest most especially in places like Nigeria and this present day world where you want to be successful.

The fact that you lie today and get that position doesn’t mean it’ll always be like that till the end of days. Most times it’s greed that makes people go out of their niche or do things that are not honest or take a shortcut. That’s the reason why we see most of our artistes today compromising. Godliness with contentment is great gain.

Lesson 4

God is not a magician, neither is he like us. He’s not a money doubler that you just snap your fingers and close your eyes to double whatever see you’ve sown. He’s God and he answers the prayers of the faithful.

You hear of people accusing God of not answering their prayers, but ask them if they asked God according to his will. Jesus said, “If my word abides in you, you’ll ask anything in my name and ill give it to you.” Remind God of his word. Hes not a lair, neither is he a son of man that he should repent. He won’t say what he won’t do.

I know there are times in my life I’ve asked and I haven’t received but there are times too that God has given me an answer even as I’m thinking about what to do at a moment in my life. Sometimes, he answers and puts me in awe even as the thoughts form in my heart.

His word just gets illuminated in my life to guide me because there’s a well of God’s word to fetch from. If there’s no word of God that I’ve read, how will i face temptations and trials when they come? Look at the case of Rolake and James Badru. Most times, it’s not easy but because you have the word of God in you, the HolySpirit brings it into your remembrance at the time of need.

But if it’s garbage in, and all the crap that the world fills us with that we have in our lives, then we’ll be crashing hard when the world comes raging in on us with temptations and trails and then we compromise. We become like that man in Mathew 7v24 who built his house on sand and when the storms came, great was his fall.

So, build your house on the rock. Abide in his word daily and Let him lead you. Then, you’llask what you will and He’ll give it to you.

Check your heart, check your relationship with him and check your request. Then you can fix what is wrong and ask again.

Don’t let people deceive you that Prayer is a Myth. It isn’t. A broken and contrite spirit thou shall not despise.

Lesson 5

When we keep ourselves, we do so because our bodies are the temples of God and the bible warns that those who defile it will  be destroyed. The bible requires both men and women and not just women alone and believe me when I say in Gods eyes there’s nothing like eh, you know he’s a man now, he has a little threshold for self control compared to women.

Man and woman will face judgement.

Man and woman were warned to flee from all forms of immorality. I’m not here to judge or point fingers o but I noticed a notion that’s going about. The bible says God is no respecter of person. Once you’ve gotten to the age that you can account for yourself, then it’s between you and your maker. The same way we still have good and godfearing women, we have them in the male form too. Don’t let anyone deceive you that everyone is bad, everyone is going to hell. If someone says all men are dogs and all women are sluts, then what about his father and his sister? What breeds are they?

Just like in the time of Elijah when he told God that all had gone after Baal, (Book of 1st Kings 18) God told him there were still thousands of people who had not bowed their knees to Baal. So take heart. Not everyone in this world has gone nuts. We still have people who live their lives like they fear God and will not compromise.

Lesson 6

Sometimes, we have to set our foot down to make our decisions on our own. Because at the end of it all, we are the ones who will face it alone. An example is in the case of Yemi and his mother. He was still holding grudges against his wife and his father whereas, his mother had moved on with his father. And that’s how life is. Don’t do things because someone wants you to do it or because you want to boost your ego. Life is all about sacrifices. And that’s what love is all about. When you find yourself in a situation, don’t let others think for you. Think of what you want at the end of it all. Think of the future and how you would want it to be at the end of it all. Will you be at a loss or great gain?

Lesson 7

Don’t be quick to judge anybody no matter who and what the person has done. After all, God makes sun and rain shine on both the good and the wicked. If he wanted to be like us, he wouldn’t let the wicked receive both.

We are meant to emulate the Father not antagonize him.

Lesson 8

Always tell your spouse you love him/her. Don’t assume that he/she knows. And when you say it, mean it and act it out. An example is Oma and Rolake. They always said it to each other and they acted it out. Little things go a long way to show how much you care. Rejoice and bask in the wife of your youth. Same with the woman. Whoever loves his spouse loves himself and shows that he loves God. 

1corinthians 13 defines what LOVE is. No other person can describe it better than that.

Love is not what we read in books or watch on Tv these days.

The world is confusing love with lust and is dragging almost everyone along. Love isn’t 50shades of gray either or whatever it is they put in our faces these days.

Love is not Scandal.

For people who have used their outlets as sex, how many of them recover? Don’t let anybody deceive you, only Jesus saves. No one else. Even a girl’s love for you cannot save you. Because She is human and the breath in her nostrils can go anytime. No man can save you either . Look unto God and let him fix you. It takes time no doubt and its all a training process like the refiners fire. When he’s done, you come out brand new. For those that wait on The Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles. They shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.Isaiah 40v31

Lesson 9

Keep yourself Pure.

Not because you feel there’s someone good enough to deserve you, but because you want to keep yourself pure for your Savior. With the things we hear on the net these days and the cases in the pharmacy, even teenagers are getting pregnant. 

Note to girls and women. Your vagina is not a public toilet for anyone to just come and insert his finger, it’s a sacred place that should be kept for just one person and because you’re so much more than an object. You’re a wonder, you’re Gods creature and you’re much more than a man’s fantasy. You were created and destined for a purpose.

If only you can see the bigger picture.

When God tells us not to sleep around, it’s actually for our own good. Because when you do, you leave parts of yourself with that person. Who knows, he may also give you some Sexually transmitted diseases to top the icing and who loses?

It’s you!!!

It’s you who’s left with the choice of an abortion,

the choice of treating yourself,

Heartbreak and what does the man do? He’s jumping up and down that he has conquered whereas he’s too ignorant to realize he’s wasting away as well.

Casual sex is not just sex and I wish people would stop buying into this worldly lie and turn to see the light. Ask people who were in the world before giving their life to Christ and their experience, they’ll tell you how much they hate their former life and wish they could just turn back the hands of time.

We humans like to rush things no doubt. But when you trust God, then I believe you’re so going to learn how to wait big time because he doesn’t rush his things. He does it when he wants it and how it should be done.

For crying out loud, that BIG GUY carries the whole world in his hands! So most definitely He knows what He’s doing. Don’t doubt, just believe.

If only Rolake had believed and waited, she wouldn’t have needed to experience all the heartbreaks she experienced. But we are glad God wrote her final love story.

Lesson 10

Learn to pray for people. Tell God to give you the grace to because it’s not easy but it does wonders even if you don’t get the answers immediately.

And please a BIG NOTE to CHRISTIANS; YOU DO NOT FORCE PEOPLE to Be Christians!! YOU CANNOT FORCE THEM to LOVE GOD, and so STOP doing things in ways PEOPLE WILL ACCUSE YOU OF MOLESTING THEM WITH RELIGION!!!

God doesn’t FORCE people to LOVE him. HE gave us free will to Choose between Serving Him and the Devil.

WE don’t PREACH RELIGION OR CHURCH, We PREACH CHRIST!

The day I began to SEE and HEAR, No one forced me, So Do your part, evangelize while you can and Leave the Rest for God. In the past, keep hammering it and whatever it is that will happen will happen. I can be sober today after watching Passion of the Christ and then days after, I return back to who I was.

Things that were initially attractive to me, After a while, I found them repulsive. There are some music videos and songs that the lyrics were even explicit that I could even watch at the time but when you begin to see clearer, you just know it. No one will tell you. Those things begin to fade away as well.

When You Love God and draw closer to HIM, When His Light Shines into your life, then you’ll come to appreciate the song AMAZING GRACE.

I’ve realized that the more you pray for people, the more you’re planning on changing yourself. The more you start having your Father’s heart. Rather than judge anyone, pray that they come into the faith. Pray that God heals them wherever they are hurting and bring them into peace.

Lesson 11

I always say one thing. If you’re not ready to feed the dog, then don’t dangle the bone before him.

Apply it to your relationship too.

If you know you’re not planning on sleeping with your fiancée or boyfriend or whoever it is that you’re in a relationship with, then please don’t do things that will promote or lead to it at the end. You can’t tell me you’re watching porn, you’re petting and fondling each other or you’re reading comics or books that promote promiscuity and you’re together.

The Bible talks about Making No provision for the flesh. Sometimes, we push things on the devil, whereas its us. We just love the blame game. we have self control don’t we? There’s a big difference between animals and humans. And for a man or woman who claims to be spirit filled, self control is a fruit of the spirit.

Exercise it.

I’m not saying when you become a Christian, things become easy o, things are rosy, naah, it’s not. It’s like your fiercest battles have begun but take courage and fight the good fight.

Lesson 11

Never forfeit a Godfearing man or woman for someone who doesn’t fear God. I mean why commit your life into the one who doesn’t Love God that he hasn’t seen? Neither does he respect God, so how will he respect me in future when the tides get high?

What will be his anchor when the storms of life come raging? Whom will he run to?

An example is Oma. Note when I said God-fearing, I didn’t say church going or pastor. I said someone that fears God. It’s very easy to know someone who fears God in this our present day world except we want to deceive ourselves. And you need to pray and commit all into the hands of the father as well.

When you commit all things into the father’s hands, He knows the future and what lies ahead and what you can handle and so he gives you someone who can complement you. Someone that can help you when you fall, Someone that can help you become a better and stronger person.

That’s what marriage is all about. Creating a help meet for him. Don’t just marry because your friends are getting married or because the world requires you to.

When you have reached the stage that you have a good relationship/rapport with the father and He sees that it is time, then I believe He’ll work it out.

Many come proclaiming they fear God etc but by their fruits, you just know them. You can’t serve God and manifest the deeds of the devil. It’s impossible. That’s a great contradiction. No matter the church you’re going, the things you claim to be, if your fruits don’t display the fruits of Gods own child, then you’re simply a liar.

In the case of prayer e.g Shade and Bisi, sometimes answers may take long but always know that God still has you in mind. He said in his word, plead your case before me. I know of women who prayed and it took more than 4 years, some are even yet to be answered but just keep praying, keep hoping and keep believing. God has never forgotten you. Doubts will come, trails, temptations, things that will make you give up, but once you know that the God you serve is on his throne, pray for grace, pray for strength. In future, people will see you and ask you how you did it and you can testify to his goodness.

As for Molade’s character too, I had to end it that way though sometimes, it doesn’t always happen like that and sometimes it does. Some people miss it and some people don’t. All I know is

The race is not to the swift

Nor the battle to the strong

But time and chance happen to them all

But just believe in God and He’ll see you through.

Lesson 12

Forgiveness. It is very important to forgive. It’s also an attribute of the Father’s heart. 🙂

And as I sit here typing to you, I want to tell you that no matter what you’ve done in life, God is willing to accept you into His fold. Even as the end draws near, He calls you to himself. No greater Love than this, that a man should lay down his life for his friends.

God sees us as his children ever since He sent Jesus to die for us that we might have eternal life. That we may be Saved.

Are you longing for the perfect Love ever, a new beginning in Christ assures us of this. You can pray with me...

Lord Jesus

I come before you today to seek your forgiveness, to ask that you pour your mercy upon me as I’ve realized that I’m a sinner and I want to change my ways. I realize that I can do nothing on my own and I need you to come into my life. I accept You as my Lord and Personal Savior. I believe God sent you to die for me on the Cross of Calvary and right now, I ask that you take control of my life and write my name in the Book of Life.

In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Much love. xo

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